I find this one of the hardest questions to answer for this meme. The one after this is even harder though.
Allowing another person to fully love me means they must actively pursue my love. What I mean by that is that I need for someone to actually put an effort in for a relationship. When it comes to some of my current or past relationships, both friendly and romantic, I feel like I’ve put in a lot of the effort. It’s tiring, knowing that you’re 90% of the effort that goes into the friendship. I’ve even given up putting that much energy in and found myself without those friends in my life.
To allow someone to fully love me means they need to actually meet half-way with me. I need to know that we’re in this together, that it’s not one person coasting along, that neither of us is pulling the other’s weight as far as making the relationship work. Granted, sometimes stuff happens and someone has to pull a bit more weight from time to time, but I mean in the general grand scheme of love.
To me, love isn’t a fairytale – I don’t believe in “love at first sight”, it’s called lust people. I don’t believe in soul mates, and I don’t believe in fate. But I do believe in hard work, and I believe that some people are better together than others. Love is about working together, to make things work, to compromise. For someone to fully love me, the need to be able to work with me on our relationship, or eventually I’ll burn out and it’ll fail. I can’t do the work of two people forever.
One other thing the other person must do is be able to make me laugh. If I can’t joke with someone, there isn’t room for to fully love them, and they probably wouldn’t have much fun being around me either.
Oh and to all of my fellow participants – I will be stopping by each and every one of your blogs in the next few days to catch up on the posts that I’ve missed. And after I’ve caught up, I will try my hardest to read your meme posts at least every other day to stay on top of everything. Sorry for my delay on comments, my busy weeks are over so now I have more free time. Huzzah!
The most up to date list available of participants: Nicole, Last Civilized Woman, Bannatreasures, Sajeev, Happyhippierose, Aurathena, Melanie, Marliz3e, TheFerkel, Prysmatique, AnonymousBurn, Caroline, Koi, Sylvia Garza, Mariana, Nenskei, MyNakedBokkie, Bluefiadiarries, VeehCirra, Princesa Musang, DLonelyStar, LJ, Terriblethinker, Sleep and Salami, Primadonna Zel, and Tom Baker. NSFW Sites: Everything Love & Lust, TemptingSweets99, Sofia.