#10. What I dislike most about the opposite sex is…
Well this is a loaded question isn’t it? I’ll try to be as tactful as I can be.
What I dislike most about the opposite sex is their general apparent shallowness. This is not to say that I think all men are shallow, or that women aren’t. Honestly, people are shallow. But for the sake of the question, I really dislike it when men are shallow. Mostly because as a single heterosexual woman, being of a larger, curvier nature (which is considered “ugly” by many), this makes it hard for me to meet men. No, no, that’s not really true. It makes me lose confidence in myself, which then makes me uncomfortable meeting men.
A lot of the single men I meet are attracted to slender, beautiful women – rightfully so, I have a lot of dear friends who fall into that category, and yeah, I can totally understand why people would be attracted to them. Smokin’! Ok, enough hitting on my friends for this post. Anyways, this set standard for beauty often makes me feel undesirable because I don’t fall into that category of beauty. It’s not that I think I’m ugly or anything (well, we all have days where we don’t feel nearly as pretty as other days), it’s just when compared to those typical types of women, men often overlook me, or find me undesirable.
Overall, I find the women I know, and myself included, are more open to dating men with varying degrees of looks and types. I’m not really attracted to “pretty men” so-to-say, and I have friends who like short guys, I have friends who like really skinny guys, and then there’s the rest of us who just like guys when we know we like them. Sometimes I’m attracted to someone, and people are like “ugh, why?”, and I can’t really say. Whenever I talk to men it’s often generalized “she’s hot” or “she’s fugly” or “she’s fat”. Now, not being a guy, I’m not sure if this is just how guys talk to people, because maybe they don’t want people to judge them if they don’t like “the norm”. Just a reminder though, I do know plenty of guys who are not shallow, and often are attracted to a girl because of her personality. But then again, these are guys who I’m not interested in that way and are not interested in me that way – so I don’t really count them while answering this question.
I guess just to summarize, I dislike it most when men judge me on how I look before getting to know me, because I think I’m pretty great, and I don’t think I’m ugly. I dislike it because it makes me feel like that’s what every man is doing, and there could be someone looking at me and actually liking what they see, and because of some shallow jerks, I find it overall hard t believe anyone would like what they see.