I imagine that the first thing I’d feel is shocked. After that I’m sure a bit numb - I mean, that’s a lot of information to take in.
Knowing how I react to stuff, I’m sure after the numbing as worn off, I’d feel angry for a little bit. Now, I’m a heated person, but what a lot of people may conceive to be my “anger” is mostly me just not dealing with being upset or worried – I get loud, and people attribute being loud to being angry. Now, when I’m angry, I’m sharp – I talk fast, I get my points in and I’m not nice. But when I’m angry it seems to subside fast.
I think at first if this scenario would happen I’d be for sure angry for a bit - and why wouldn’t I? This person I developed a friendship with tells me she is not who she said she was. I feel betrayed, I feel exposed because I’ve probably opened up to her. I feel naked and used. Within my anger the real deep emotion would be sadness because I would feel like she has taken away someone who I could depend on and love, someone close to my heart. It’s like they killed her.
I know how I react to everything though, and I think I’d see an opportunity to still salvage the friendship – because ultimately this person has revealed to me a secret they’ve been holding onto because they trust me. If I shove it back in their face, I’m just as bad as they are for lying. I think I’d try to talk it out with my friend, to see the motivations behind the lying, to find out why it happened. And ultimately I know I’d probably understand to some degree – when you blog, vlog, even facebook, you’re exposing yourself to strangers on the internet and sometimes you need to protect the people you love in your real life.
I think I’d take this news as something to grow from, to begin a better, more real friendship. The friendship or the thoughts I may have had for this friend beforehand would be gone though – because that is the sacrifice we would both be making. Forgive – but not forget. If you forget you don’t learn from the past.
That’s when I’d say goodbye to whoever she was, and introduce myself to who she really is.
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